Penny is my mother in law. She is a beautiful person inside and out. She will talk to just about anyone about anything. She’s very outgoing and loving and kind. She’s done a lot for me and so I feel I need to return the love. It’s hard though. Penny has dementia. I believe she has Alzheimer’s but that can’t be determined until an autopsy can be performed. It’s confusing isn’t it?
So Penny and Dick (my in laws) live with us half the year and the rest of the year they have a place in Florida. They are down there now (in Florida) but I think it’s going to be the last time they can make it down there by themselves. It’s sad. They loved it there. They hate the cold here. But someone has to help take care of them and that is my husband and his sister.
It’s been hard on my this past year. Penny’s dementia is worse and she was diagnosed with breast cancer again at the beginning of the summer. We spend most of the summer at various doctor’s offices with radiation everyday for 6 weeks and chemotherapy after. Her diagnosis is excellent and she did very well, but think about how hard that was for her when everyday you forget what happened yesterday? Everyday she wanted to know why she had to go to the doctor and why did she have to get radiation. She often confused radiation with church for some reason but she likes church so that wasn’t such a big deal. Some deals, especially at the beginning, she refused to go and this made me so nervous. But all in all it worked out and she seems to be cancer free.
All this is hard of me because I live with Penny and Dick. Which means I’m there with them all day, everyday. My husband and my sister in law are working full time so they can’t run them to the doctors or help them with their bank accounts or referee their fights. It’s all me. It’s tiring.
But I need to have a better attitude because they have been great parents to me. So this is my account of what is happening in our lives with dementia.